Asking for Help

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Ultimately rocking the nation, Anthony Bourdain and Kate Spade committed suicide within days of each other. As sad and heartbreaking as these situations were, I am thankful the world is finally starting to discuss mental health.

If you aren’t happy within yourself, or if your dopamine or serotonin levels are off, nothing else matters. Money, family, jobs… nothing matters. If you are experiencing mental health issues, you didn’t cause it, but ultimately it is up to you to figure out how to address it. Mental health is a disease. Health care systems will reimburse you for seeing a therapist, your meds, hospitals, etc. If you are experiencing any issues, anything at all, please ask for help.

Sometimes we experience situations in our lives where we need help. We need help beyond Google, Alexa or any of the blog/vlog spheres out there. We need actual, human help. We, as a society, need each other. We need belonging and togetherness because that is what keeps us sane. That is what keeps us going. It’s not weak. It’s not inferior. We just need help.

As a therapist, I have realized that the core of what makes each and every one of us human is the same. We are born into different families, different ethnicities and at different times. But, the core is the same. At some point, everyone struggles with the same insecurities,

Now… the next step in this is finding who the right person is to help. Do you need a friend, a therapist, a life coach or someone else? This is not a “one size fits all” scenario. The key is finding the person or persons that work with you and your needs. Does their personality fit yours? Do your beliefs line-up?

In my late thirties, I became a licensed therapist. I had met my husband and had a son. I felt as if I had really worked through most of my issues and obstacles. Au contraire. A few years ago, I took my career down a new path and realized that, in certain areas, I had no idea what I was doing. From business coaching, to marketing, to public speaking, I needed help. It was challenging, rewarding, stressful and amazing. I learned a ton about myself. That is powerful.

Whenever you embark on something totally new or out of your realm, it is hard to do completely on your own. A big part of asking for help is recognizing that not all problems are going to solve on their own.

Tess Brigham